What do you do if your client says they want a divorce? Welcome to the world of "pre-divorce coaching." Just like "pre-commitment" is one of the five stages of relationship coaching that addresses "Is this the right relationship for me?" to provide clarity to their decision making before taking an irreversible step into a committed relationship, "Pre-Divorce" coaching can address "Is divorce the … [Read more...] about What You Need to Know about Divorce Coaching
We have a lot of information about why giving your advice, opinions and suggestions isn't effective for helping your clients, so let's address why asking questions is the most important coaching skill. First, there are different types of coaching questions, such as questions for- Defining what you want (Vision, etc) Decision making Expanding awareness Strategizing Goal setting Problem … [Read more...] about Why Are Questions the Most Important Coaching Skill?
Coaching is a positive, goal oriented profession, but when we use the word "Goal" what do we really mean? In RCI coach trainings we emphasize Coaching Goals, Not Problems and Zooming Out to the client's big picture Vision before Zooming In to strategize and address challenges. Zooming Out to the 30,000 foot view to identify the client's big picture, long term Vision/Goal is critical and where … [Read more...] about Four Types of Coaching Goals
I've noticed that most life and relationship coaches seem to understand the importance of "empowerment" and removing "ego" as important reasons for not playing "expert" and giving our coaching clients advice. When you're helping functional people, this is the enlightened and evolved service methodology. More about that here. But in more than two decades as a coach and coach trainer, I've noticed … [Read more...] about Science: The Most Overlooked Reason for Not Giving Advice
"You don't need to be an expert to coach, you just need to apply your coaching skills expertly." - David Steele The skills of professional coaching are universal and enable you to coach anybody about anything. But while you can coach "anybody," you can't coach "everybody." Confused? Here's three requirements for who you can coach effectively: 1. The client must believe you can help them. While … [Read more...] about Coaching Everybody vs. Anybody
Coaches seem drawn to limiting beliefs (sometimes referred to as "self-sabotaging thoughts" or "gremlins") like moths to a flame. It is distressing as a coach to see your client holding themselves back and sabotaging themselves and you understandably want to do something about it. Unfortunately, most coaches seem to think the "direct attack" approach is the way to go- identify the limiting … [Read more...] about The Case Against Coaching Limiting Beliefs