It is common for one partner to seek coaching when they need 1:1 support for something they're struggling with in their relationship and are not yet ready to include their partner. We don't need to reject coaching them unless both partners participate, we can help the partner who wants help and support them to work towards including their partner. It's best if both partners participate in … [Read more...] about FAQ: Is it OK to coach one partner of a couple?
"An ongoing challenge for my client is the struggle her mum is having accepting her sexuality. Obviously, she can’t change her mother’s attitude or judgement, but this difficult situation is a real emotional and mental struggle for my client which I sometimes find hard to support her with, as I don’t want to feed too much into or focus on the ‘problem’." To be clear, when we refer to "focusing on … [Read more...] about FAQ: How do I help my client when their family doesn’t accept their sexuality?
You're probably familiar with Brainstorming, the process of two or more people throwing out ideas without judgment or attachment to stimulate creative problem solving. This is one of the best strategies for empowering our clients to generate and find solutions and get unstuck. However, one of the most common FAQs we get from new coaches is- What do I do when my client doesn't have any ideas … [Read more...] about Using Brainstorming in Life and Relationship Coaching
As life and relationship coaches our primary goal and all of our coaching skills are focused on empowering our clients. Why? Because playing the role of expert consultant by giving our clients advice and opinion of what we think they "should" do as well as other directive activities is dis-empowering, we refer to them as "non-coach-like," and they just don't work when applied to helping a client … [Read more...] about Asking Permission in Life and Relationship Coaching
One aspect of being a helping professional that is rarely mentioned is the power of Influence. You influence your client in many ways, even without saying or doing anything. Here are six ways that come to mind: 1. By your presence. 2. By being a role model of a functional, positive, energetic, risk taking, growth-oriented, evolving and striving person. 3. By the client's decision to hire you … [Read more...] about The Power of Influence in Coaching
"What can I do when my client is struggling due to lack of self discipline or motivation?" 1. First, be sure the client is clear and excited about their big picture long term Vision and on board with the goals and action plans you've helped them develop for achieving it. If it's more of a "should" than a strong "want" or desire for your client you should probably revisit and revise the reason the … [Read more...] about How to Help an Unmotivated Client