IN THIS ISSUE:
Agreements: The Road Map for SuccessBy: Dr Jackie Black
The Road Map for Success
Most couples have hopes and dreams, and desires and expectations. They establish goals and make commitments that are developed from a joint visioning process; a process that expresses an inclusive vision of desired outcomes; their road map to success!
Another way to look at this is that we join forces with others by forming agreements. Agreements are expressed in writing or verbally during very intentional conversations. Most of us have never learned how to craft effective, explicit agreements. It is a skill we were never taught, even though it is fundamental to all relationships and a basic life skill.
Whether you are a committed couple or an amazing singleton, as they call it in the UK, let's educate ourselves about agreements, commitments, boundaries, conflict, and fidelity. Let’s start risking being our deepest most magnificent selves!
Join me and let's start today!
Remember, only YOU can make it happen!
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Dr. Jackie Black, is a Marriage Educator, Author and Coach; the co-developer of RCI's Couples Coach Training Program; and the creator of the new, 7-week, online, multimedia learning experience for couples facing life-threatening and chronic illness. She is a popular Internet syndicated columnist, a highly regarded relationship blogger and podcaster, and a frequent guest expert on traditional and Internet radio throughout the world. Connect with Dr. Jackie at www.DrJackieBlack.com
How can I get my wife to be more independent?
My wife is totally dependent on her parents. She's 35 years old and we've been married for 11 years and have 2 children but she still can't do anything without checking with them first. She doesn't work and they give her money every week, so she has no incentive to find a job. They do everything for her, including trying to raise our sons. I'm very frustrated and can't seem to get her to understand that this is jeopardizing our relationship. What can I do to get her to grow up and be more independent?
The best thing you can do is be understanding and to try to meet her where she is at. If she feels that you are unaccepting of her, the natural response is to feel defensive or misunderstood. One of the greatest things a partner can do is try to understand their partner's relationship with their parents and encourage their growth. There are a couple of things you can do to be gentle, but at the same time, encouraging.
Meet her where she is at:
Ask her what she wants:
Then go to work on that. Love her and encourage her. And let her know you are always by her side through her growth. And that you want to be someone who she can share everything with; her hopes, dreams, fears and deepest desires.
To your loving and connected relationship.
Kristen Hill | www.kristen-hill.com/7reasons
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