Celebrating our 10 Year Anniversary! 1997 - 2007

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Relationship Coaching News
August 2007

In this issue:

David Steele
Editor- David Steele
Founder and CEO
Relationship Coaching Institute

Copyright 2007 by Relationship Coaching Institute. All rights reserved. Feel free to share with others as long as our contact information and authorship is included. U.S. Library of Congress ISSN#1530-3055.

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1 RCI's 10 Year Anniversary! 2007
2 New and improved Communication Map launches Now available!
3 Free Training:  Introduction to Relationship Coaching Tuesdays, August 7, 14, 21
4 Free Conscious Mating Tele-seminar August 22
5 Free Conscious Relationship Tele-seminar August 9

RCI's 10 Year Anniversary!

RCI's 10 Year Anniversary!

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New and improved Communication Map now available!

Simple and easy to understand

Learn and implement in less than an hour

Universal- works for all relationships and settings- work, home, business, family, parenting, couples, etc

Tested and proven by hundreds of graduates of Relationship Coaching Institute

Designed to quickly and effectively address interpersonal issues and problems to prevent and resolve conflict, The Communication Map can be learned by anyone in less than an hour.

The Communication Map is 8 1/2 x 11 inches, full-color, laminated for durability, and comes with a 44-minute audio CD tutorial.

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Practical, effective, and affordable conflict resolution tool for personal and professional relationships

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For more information about The Communication Map visit www.thecommunicationmap.com


Introduction to Relationship Coaching

Starts August 7th

Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop a successful Relationship Coaching practice, taught by RCI founder David Steele and his teaching staff.

Introduction to Relationship Coaching includes 3 one-hour tele-classes, Tuesdays, August 7, 14, and 21; 9:00am pacific/Noon eastern.

Class #1 How to Coach Singles August 7
Class #2 How to Coach Couples August 14
Class #3 How to Build a Successful Relationship Coaching Practice August 21

Each class includes practical information and materials you can use immediately in your practice.

To register (it's free!) sign up here

Can't make our training dates/times? Each class is recorded for those unable to attend, and we also offer an ON-LINE VERSION

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Free Conscious Mating Tele-Seminar Series

Wednesday, August 22, 5:30pm pacific/8:30pm eastern

Linda Marshall - PhotoConscious Mating:
Deciding "Is This the One?"

With David Steele and Linda Marshall

When singles become pre-committed couples they ask themselves "Is this the right relationship for me? Is this 'The One' for a lifetime commitment?" Fearing relationship failure, many avoid making this decision, and as a result the marriage rate is declining.

Most of us want a fulfilling committed relationship. Our goal in Conscious Mating is to provide you the information and strategies for answering the question "Is this the right relationship for me?"

In this program you will learn:

- How to identify relationship red flags and danger signs

- How to know if you're talking yourself into (or out of) a relationship because of fear

- Our #1 Strategy for determining "Is this 'The One?'"

- Three powerful questions you need to ask yourself before considering commitment

- Nine areas of a relationship to evaluate for decision-making

- How to get off the fence, "Be the Chooser" and live happily ever after with your soul mate

- And more!

No need to register! To access this seminar use this link-

As a subscriber you will receive reminders a few days prior and the day of the seminar.

Can't attend? No problem. The recordings of all our programs are available free at www.consciousrelationshippodcast.com

Free Conscious Relationship Tele-Seminar Series

On the second Thursday of each month we conduct a free tele-seminar on relatioships featuring top experts!.

Thursday, August 9, 5:30pm pacific/8:30pm eastern

No More Mr. Nice Guy! Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

With Robert Glover, Ph.D.

- Too concerned about what other people think of you?

- Spend too much time taking care of other people?

- Having a hard time making your intimate relationships work?

- Frustrated with your sex life?

In No More Mr. Nice Guy!, Dr. Robert Glover presents a proven plan to get what you want in love, sex and life. Whether you're single and looking for love or in a relationship that you want to become all it can be, Dr. Glover will help you identify your own self-defeating behaviors and find what you're looking for.

In this program you will learn-

  • How to stop seeking approval and make your needs a priority
  • How to build healthy, vibrant relationships
  • How to tell the truth with love
  • How to set the tone and take the lead without being controlling
  • Three rules for great sex

No need to register! To access this seminar use this link-

As a subscriber you will receive reminders a few days prior and the day of the seminar.

Can't attend? No problem. The recordings of all our programs are available free at www.consciousrelationshippodcast.com

Feature Article:
Helping Your Clients Identify Dating Red Flags

by David Steele

Below is a Dating Red Flags Checklist to help singles identify possible red flags in a prospective relationship

I. Projecting the Future:

1.    _____ Would I want to spend the rest of my life with                 this person exactly as they are?

2.    _____ Would I want this person to raise my child?

3.    _____ Would I want my child to be exactly like this                 person?

II. Are You Talking Yourself Into a Relationship?

4.    _____ Do I want to rescue or "help" them because I
                see their potential?

5.    _____ I love the way they look or their status and it                 builds my self-esteem to be with them.

6.    _____ We have some things in common and so I'm
                avoiding looking at glaring differences.

7.    _____ They appear to be totally different than people
                I've been with in the past.

8.    _____  I'm focusing on one important quality (money,                  sex, fun, humor, etc) and ignoring unmet

III. Danger Signs

9.  _____ Reacts to frustration with anger, rage, blame

10.  _____ Blames others or circumstances for life situation

11.  _____ Tries to control everything, including me

12.  _____ Immature, impulsive, and/or irresponsible

13.  _____ Emotionally distant or void, aloof

14.  _____ Still pining for a past relationship

15.  _____ Wants me to make their sad life better

16. _____ Married or otherwise unavailable to commit to me

17. _____ Active addiction, addictive behavior
              (rationalized as "not a problem")

IV. Other Common Red Flags

18.  _____ Is pessimistic and negative about things
               that matter to me

19.  _____ Lacks integrity in dealing with people, money, etc.

20.  _____ Judgmental attitude toward themselves & others

21.  _____ Unwilling to self-examine, accept feedback,
               take responsibility

22.  _____ Doesn't keep agreements

23.  _____ What they say about themself doesn't match

24. _____ Emotional roller coaster, recurring or regular
              emotional drama

25. _____ This isn't what I really want, but I don't want
               to be alone

26. _____ Changeable, inconsistent behavior

27. _____ Inability to listen

28. _____ I notice myself trying to change this person to fit
              what I want, instead of accepting them for who
              they are

29. _____ Talks too much (especially about self),
               monopolizes conversation

30. _____ Overly quiet, withdrawn


A. Total checked items from Section II, III, and IV _______

B. Circle the checked items that need close attention,
decision-making, or require more information.

C. On a scale from 0 (Not at all) to 100 (Perfect fit) my minimum score for considering any relationship is _______

D. Using the above scale I score this potential
     relationship _______

E.  Based upon the above results, I--  should / shouldn't
                                                                        (circle one)
     proceed dating this potential partner.

Note: If it's clear you should not proceed dating this potential partner and you have any difficulty moving on, we strongly suggest showing this checklist to your best friend, close family member, therapist or coach and get the support you need to be "The Chooser."                   

Source: This checklist was created by Linda Marshall and David Steele, with invaluable and much appreciated input from RCI coaches.                                                                                       

© 2007 Relationship Coaching Institute– All rights reserved.



Invitation #1
Please share this newsletter with a colleague.  There is a tremendous need for our services, and we need to work together. Relationship Coaching is in its infancy, and we must collaborate to build our market niche and position as a resource of wide appeal for anyone who wants a successful relationship.

Invitation #2
I invite you to listen to the following introductory recordings 24 hours a day at your convenience by visiting http://relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/audio/index.htm

  • Commitment: The Secret Ingredient to Relationship Happiness
  • Introduction to Relationship Coaching
  • Conscious Dating for Relationship Success
  • Conscious Mating: Is This the Right Relationship for Me?
  • And more!

Invitation #3
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To subscribe to this newsletter, our newsletter for SINGLES, our newsletter for COUPLES, or our GETTTING CLIENTS newsletter, visit

Invitation #5
To learn more about Relationship Coaching this article is a great place to start-
Relationship Coaching: New Hope for Singles and Couples

Invitation #6
To learn more about Relationship Coaching Institute check out-
RCI: More Than Relationship Coaching Training

How do you like our newsletter? Your feedback is welcome!  Until next time....

Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute


Telephone:  888.268.4074


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