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Relationship Coaching News
March 2006

In this issue:

Editor- David Steele
Founder and CEO
Relationship Coaching Institute

Copyright 2006 by Relationship Coaching Institute. All rights reserved. Feel free to share with others as long as our contact information and authorship is included. U.S. Library of Congress ISSN#1530-3055.

Conscious Dating:
Finding the Love of Your Life in Today's World

Available for order NOW at www.ConsciousDating.com


Conscious Relationship
Tele-Seminar Series


Conscious Relationship Podcast

Conscious Relationship Article Bank

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1 Free Tele-Seminar: Getting Unlimited Referrals March 1
3 Free Tele-Seminar:  Marry Yourself First! March 9
4 New! How to Make Six Figures as an Expert Who Speaks Free audio program
5 Free Training:  Introduction to Relationship Coaching April 4

Build Your Ideal Practice!

Getting Unlimited Referrals

Wednesday, March 1st
9:00am pacific/Noon eastern

Referrals are important in most businesses. Did you know there are techniques to increase the number of referrals you get? Did you know there are referral systems that can create an ongoing stream of referrals for a lifetime?

In this program, Master Sales Trainer Eric Lofholm shares some of his most powerful ideas for getting unlimited referrals, including-

  • Why most people don't even ask for referrals
  • How to consistently get referrals in your target market
  • How to flood yourself with referral business
  • What to do once you get a referral
  • How to overcome your fear of asking for referrals

No need to register. This seminar is FREE for subscribers of our free monthly practice-building newsletter GETTING CLIENTS

To subscribe and receive your invitation to this seminar, please visit http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com

Please share with your colleagues!


Free Conscious Relationship Tele-Seminar Series:  
Marry Yourself First!

Thursday, March 9
5:30pm pacific/8:30pm eastern

Marry YourSelf First! Saying "I Do"
to a Life of Passion, Power and Purpose

With Ken Donaldson

Join author Ken Donaldson as he shares five of his 20 Core Principles of Passion, Power and Purpose from his book Marry YourSelf First!

In this program you will learn about the principles of:

Attraction: Discover why you attract certain types of people and how to attract more of what you truly want
Boundaries: Unveil the internal and external boundary dynamics that will keep you in your power and passion
Communication: Learn the how to avoid "Bull-fighting, Pig-wrestling and Rabbit-chasing" and instead communicate assertively and effectively
Deal-Makers and Deal-Breakers: Reveal the Deal-makers and Deal-breakers that will keep you the happiest, healthiest and wealthiest
Emotional (and Little Voice) Management: Discover the secrets of self-intervention and how to break out of old self-limiting beliefs

Marry YourSelf First is for those who are tired of relationships that haven't worked and for those who want to live and love the life they were meant to have. In this program, author, psychotherapist and relationship coach Ken Donaldson helps you discover the strategies needed to create lasting relationships and live a life of passion, power and purpose.

No need to register! As a subscriber you will receive a reminder with the telephone bridge number needed to join a few days prior to the seminar.

Please share with your colleagues!


How to Make Six Figures as an Expert Who Speaks

Last month I sponsored a seminar series with my speaking mentor Burt Dubin on How to Make Six Figures as an Expert Who Speaks. This was by far the most valuable free program I've ever seen, sponsored, or participated in.

Program #1: How to Make It Big in the Speaking Business

Program #2: Presentation Magic: How to Shine on the Platform

Program #3: How to Get Paid as a Professional Speaker

This seminar series was simply incredible. Burt generously shared very specific tips and instructions for how to become an expert who gets paid (well!) to speak.

FREE for our subscribers!

To access this audio program use this link-



Introduction to Relationship Coaching

Starts April 4

Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop a successful Relationship Coaching practice, taught by RCI founder David Steele and his teaching staff.

Introduction to Relationship Coaching includes 3 one-hour tele-classes, Tuesdays, April 4, 11, and 18, 2006; 9:00am pacific/Noon eastern.

Class #1 How to Coach Singles April 4
Class #2 How to Coach Couples April 11
Class #3 How to Build a Successful Relationship Coaching Practice April 18

Each class includes practical information and materials you can use immediately in your practice.

Can't make our training dates/times? Each class is recorded for those unable to attend, and we also offer an ON-LINE VERSION.

Please share with your colleagues! To register or for more information, visit /forms/freeteleclass.htm


Welcome New RCI Coaches

The following professionals recently joined our ranks:

Frankie Doiron

Ontario, Canada

Adam Dorsay, MA San Jose, CA
Mubo Ojo Baltimore, MD
Teresa Schad Kiel, WI

Feature Article:
Couples Helping Couples

By David Steele

Our Conscious Relationship Tele-seminar last month was-

The Couples Circle: A Powerful Peer Support Model for Conscious Couples

To listen or download the audio file please visit www.ConsciousRelationshipPodcast.com

This seminar covered two topics-

1. The Couples Circle

2. Imago Couples International

Both have significance for me as I have been a participant of a Couples Circle for the past two years and I'm on the Board of Directors of Imago Couples International.

The Couples Circle

I first wrote about the Couples Circle in the October 2004 issue of this newsletter. In addition to benefiting personally, as a Relationship Coach I see tremendous benefit for participation in a Couples Circle for any functional couple who desires a fulfilling, conscious relationship.

Couples can go to therapy, take workshops, and seek coaching, but then what? While our agenda might be to work with a couple forever, that is NOT their agenda! Most couples prefer to get support for their relationship for a period of time, then move forward in their life without professional help.

Given my strong belief that no-one is successful alone, I see the Couples Circle as the missing link between isolation and dependency upon professional help.

As a relationship coach I don't want my client dependent upon my support forever, and I'm invested in their continued future success. I believe recommending they join (or start) a couples circle for on-going support is a great next step for them.

And, as a therapist and relationship coach, while I don't desire to participate in on-going therapy or relationship coaching myself, I do desire a fulfilling relationship, and have found the Couples Circle to be a wonderful support resource for my own relationship.

Try it! For more information about the format and structure of the couples circle and how to get started, please see-

October 2004 Couples Circle article

Imago Dialogue Group description and format

Couples Circle tele-seminar

Imago Couples International

In 2003 I was invited by Harville Hendrix to his ranch in New Mexico help form a new couples association. The criterion for being invited was (A) to have taken an Imago couples workshop, and (B) to NOT be an Imago therapist. To date I've taken three Imago workshops for couples, and while I'm not an Imago therapist I do consider myself to be "Imago-friendly." Maggie and I and twelve other couples spent the weekend brainstorming a peer support organization for couples.

Imago Couples International (ICI) is to my knowledge, the first and only peer support organization for couples. Organized by couples for couples. We achieved non-profit status last year, and the Board of Directors is all-volunteer. Interestingly, all Board positions are held jointly by a couple, such as our Co-Presidents Darrell Holdaway and Nevin Valentine who joined me in presenting last month's tele-seminar.

Though ICI was founded with the support of Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt and has "Imago" in it's name, no knowledge or experience with Imago is necessary for membership or participation. Couples utilize a simplified version of a couples dialogue in their Couples Circles, and this often motivates non-initiated couples to take an Imago workshop. While I'm sure this was Harville's desired outcome, ICI and the Couples Circles are run by couples for couples, and do not push Imago or any other workshop or professional service. Our emphasis is "Couples Helping Couples" and our mission statement is-

Changing the world one couple at a time
through peer support and education


1. In a relationship? Start a Couples Circle! Use the links above for ideas and information to do so. You'll be glad you did.

2. Pass along this info to your clients and colleagues. Peer support for couples is an important and powerful key to on-going relationship success.

3. Support the early formation of Imago Couples International by joining as a Charter Member, and pass this along to other like-minded couples. More info here

David Steele, MA, LMFT is founder of Relationship Coaching Institute and author of the ground-breaking new book for singles Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today's World. www.ConsciousDating.com



Invitation #1
I invite you to share your announcements, wins, coaching or practice tips with the rest of us. Be visible! Let's connect!  Send them to me at David@member.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com

Invitation #2
I invite you to share this newsletter with a colleague.  There is a tremendous need for our services, and we need to work together. Relationship Coaching is in its infancy, and we must collaborate to build our market niche and position as a resource of wide appeal for anyone who wants a successful relationship.

To pass the word about us to a friend or colleague, please visit http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com/tellafriend.html

Invitation #3
I invite you to listen to the following introductory recordings 24 hours a day at your convenience by visiting /audio/index.htm (some are available by telephone)

  • Commitment: The Secret Ingredient to Relationship Happiness
  • The Communication Map™
  • Introduction to Relationship coaching
  • All about RCI
  • Practice Building Intensive (sample conference call)
  • And more!

Invitation #4
I invite you to get the support you need to be successful in your practice. We are available for information, training, ideas, mentor coaching, etc.

Invitation #5
If you are a coach or therapist who received this from a colleague, I invite you to visit our web site and contact us at
for information on joining us and becoming a RCI Relationship Coach. Join our free "Introduction to Relationship Coaching teleclass series.

Invitation #6
To subscribe to this newsletter, our newsletter for SINGLES, our newsletter for COUPLES, or our PRACTICE BUILDING newsletter, visit

Invitation #7
For a description of RCI relationship coaching trainings, schedule, and enrollment info, select "Joining RCI" from the left menu at

How do you like our newsletter? Your feedback is welcome!  Until next time....

Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute
Telephone:  888.268.4074


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