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Relationship Coaching News
February 2006

In this issue:

Editor- David Steele
Founder and CEO
Relationship Coaching Institute

Copyright 2006 by Relationship Coaching Institute. All rights reserved. Feel free to share with others as long as our contact information and authorship is included. U.S. Library of Congress ISSN#1530-3055.

Conscious Dating:
Finding the Love of Your Life in Today's World

Available for order NOW at www.ConsciousDating.com


Conscious Relationship
Tele-Seminar Series


Conscious Relationship Podcast

Conscious Relationship Article Bank

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1 Free Conscious Relationship Resources Now Available
2 Conscious Dating Book Official Launch on Valentine's Day Now Available
3 Free Tele-Seminar:  The Couples Circle: A Powerful Peer Support Model for Conscious Couples February 9
4 New! How to Make Six Figures as an Expert Who Speaks Free audio program
5 Free Training:  Introduction to Relationship Coaching February 7

Free Conscious Relationship Resources

Conscious Relationship Article Bank
Need an article? Find it here! Got an article? Post it here! www.ConsciousRelationshipArticles.com

Conscious Relationship Tele-Seminar Series
Each month we strive to bring you the best relationship information from top experts! www.ConsciousRelationshipSeminars.com

Conscious Relationship Podcast
Our live tele-seminars are recorded and available for future listening at your convenience! www.ConsciousRelationshipPodcast.com

Find these and our other programs at


Conscious Dating Book Offical Launch on Valentine's Day

If you would like to be among the first to receive a copy of this book, order yours now at www.consciousdating.com or use this direct order link

Free CD with book!

FREE Audio CD with each book!
(available for a limited time while supplies last)

Great gift for a single friend or family member!


The Couples Circle: A Powerful Peer Support Model for Conscious Couples

Thursday February 9, 2006
5:30pm pacific/8:30pm eastern

With Nevin Valentine, Darrell Holdaway, and David Steele

What is a "Couples Circle?"

I (David) define it as a peer support group of couples seeking to deepen their relationship. In my opinion, being in a fulfilling long-term committed relationship requires sustained effort, and on-going support to survive and thrive.

I first learned about the concept of a Couples Circle from Darrell and Nevin when we spent the weekend at Harville Hendrix's ranch in New Mexico helping to form Imago Couples International a new non-profit peer support organization for couples. For more info see www.imagocouples.org

Since then, Maggie and I started one in our area and we have been meeting once a month for the past two years. I can personally attest that this model can provide powerful support for couples to deepen and strengthen their relationship.

For an explanation of the Couples Circle, including the meeting format, check out my article- The Couples Circle

No need to register! As a subscriber you will receive a reminder with the telephone bridge number needed to join a few days prior to the seminar.

Please share with your colleagues!


How to Make Six Figures as an Expert Who Speaks

Last month I sponsored a seminar series with my speaking mentor Burt Dubin on How to Make Six Figures as an Expert Who Speaks. This was by far the most valuable free program I've ever seen, sponsored, or participated in.

Program #1: How to Make It Big in the Speaking Business

Program #2: Presentation Magic: How to Shine on the Platform

Program #3: How to Get Paid as a Professional Speaker

This seminar series was simply incredible. Burt generously shared very specific tips and instructions for how to become an expert who gets paid (well!) to speak.

FREE for our subscribers!

To access this audio program use this link-



Introduction to Relationship Coaching

Starts February 7

Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop a successful Relationship Coaching practice, taught by RCI founder David Steele and his teaching staff.

Introduction to Relationship Coaching includes 3 one-hour tele-classes, Tuesdays, December 6, 13, 20,, 2005; 9:00am pacific/Noon eastern.

Class #1 How to Coach Singles Feb 7
Class #2 How to Coach Couples Feb 14
Class #3 How to Build a Successful Relationship Coaching Practice Feb 21

Each class includes practical information and materials you can use immediately in your practice.

Can't make our training dates/times? Each class is recorded for those unable to attend, and we also offer an ON-LINE VERSION.

Please share with your colleagues! To register or for more information, visit /forms/freeteleclass.htm


Welcome New RCI Coaches

The following professionals recently joined our ranks:

Susan Merz Anderson

Portland, OR

Michelle Anspaugh, LMFT Overland Park, KS
Judy Armes, MA Fairfield, WA
Barrett Solberg Chandler, AZ
Mary Jean Sitter, LCSW Lone Jack, MO

Feature Article:
What Matters Most

By David Steele

As I write this, the official, national launch of my new book Conscious Dating is happening on Valentine's Day in a few weeks, and I'm feeling introspective. I ask you, dear reader, to humor me as I share what's on my mind on this momentous (for me) occasion.

As a child, I never imagined I would grow up to be a therapist and coach.

As a therapist I never imagined I would transition my practice to coaching.

As a coach I never imagined I would found a worldwide relationship coach training program.

And I never imagined, in my entire life, that I would write a book as substantial as Conscious Dating that (in the words of my heroes Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks) makes "a significant contribution to the world of relationships."


I look on my bookshelf and in addition to Conscious Dating I see:

  • How to Build Your Ideal Practice in 90 Days
  • How to Get Clients Toolkit
  • Conscious Dating Relationship Success Training for Singles
  • Partners in Life for Pre-committed and Pre-marital Couples
  • Relationship Coaching Home Study Program
  • Conscious Dating for Relationship Success (CD)

Quite a body of work. All written by ME. Gosh, did I do that?

One of my twin sons, eight years old, at the beginning of second grade this year (shortly after Conscious Dating was first printed) when asked by his teacher what he was most proud of replied-

"My Dad, because he writes books."

Now THAT has got to be the highest compliment I've ever received.

How did I do this? How did I get here?

I can only say... by pursuing what matters most to me.

My father is an artist, passionate for the past five decades about his work to the exclusion of friends, family, and financial security. Now in his eighties, he has quite a body of work and is still going strong (Visit his website if you're interested).

I've inherited my father's passion and creativity in my work and hope to be as prolific as he into my eighties as well. However, unlike him, being a father, having a life, loving and being loved will always be my priorities as well.

I believe we all put our priorities into what matters most to us.

While we might talk the talk, how we show up in our walk will reveal what matters most.

What matters most to you? Fun? Security? Love? Money? Comfort? Knowledge? Making a difference?

Following what matters most to me led me to make a contribution to the world that my son and I are proud of. Feels good.

Yet, the journey is just beginning... again.

If you are reading this, you are most likely in my network as a fellow relationship professional. You are following what matters most to you as well, and I acknowledge and appreciate you as a fellow traveler trying to make our world a better place.

Thanks so much for your support and sharing in this journey with me.

David Steele, MA, LMFT is founder of Relationship Coaching Institute and author of the ground-breaking new book for singles Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today's World. www.ConsciousDating.com



Invitation #1
I invite you to share your announcements, wins, coaching or practice tips with the rest of us. Be visible! Let's connect!  Send them to me at David@member.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com

Invitation #2
I invite you to share this newsletter with a colleague.  There is a tremendous need for our services, and we need to work together. Relationship Coaching is in its infancy, and we must collaborate to build our market niche and position as a resource of wide appeal for anyone who wants a successful relationship.

To pass the word about us to a friend or colleague, please visit http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com/tellafriend.html

Invitation #3
I invite you to listen to the following introductory recordings 24 hours a day at your convenience by visiting /audio/index.htm (some are available by telephone)

  • Commitment: The Secret Ingredient to Relationship Happiness
  • The Communication Map™
  • Introduction to Relationship coaching
  • All about RCI
  • Practice Building Intensive (sample conference call)
  • And more!

Invitation #4
I invite you to get the support you need to be successful in your practice. We are available for information, training, ideas, mentor coaching, etc.

Invitation #5
If you are a coach or therapist who received this from a colleague, I invite you to visit our web site and contact us at
for information on joining us and becoming a RCI Relationship Coach. Join our free "Introduction to Relationship Coaching teleclass series.

Invitation #6
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Invitation #7
For a description of RCI relationship coaching trainings, schedule, and enrollment info, select "Joining RCI" from the left menu at

How do you like our newsletter? Your feedback is welcome!  Until next time....

Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute
Telephone:  888.268.4074


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