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Relationship Coaching News
January 2006

In this issue:

Editor- David Steele
Founder and CEO
Relationship Coaching Institute

Copyright 2006 by Relationship Coaching Institute. All rights reserved. Feel free to share with others as long as our contact information and authorship is included. U.S. Library of Congress ISSN#1530-3055.

Conscious Dating:
Finding the Love of Your Life in Today's World

Available for order NOW at www.ConsciousDating.com


Conscious Relationship
Tele-Seminar Series


Conscious Relationship Podcast

Conscious Relationship Article Bank


See below for a New Year's gift from Relationship Coaching Institute.

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1 Conscious Relationship Resources Now Available
2 Conscious Dating Book Now Available for Immediate Shipping Now Available
3 Free Tele-Seminar:  Everything You Really Need to Know About Conscious Relationships January 12
4 Free Training:  Introduction to Relationship Coaching February 7
5 Course:  Relationship Coaching Home Study Program Now Available Now Available

Conscious Relationship Resources

Conscious Relationship Article Bank
Need an article? Find it here! Got an article? Post it here! www.ConsciousRelationshipArticles.com

Conscious Relationship Tele-Seminar Series
Each month we strive to bring you the best relationship information from top experts! www.ConsciousRelationshipSeminars.com

Conscious Relationship Podcast
Our live tele-seminars are recorded and available for future listening at your convenience! www.ConsciousRelationshipPodcast.com

Find these and our other programs at


Conscious Dating Book Now Available for Immediate Shipping

If you would like to be among the first to receive a copy of this book, order yours now at www.consciousdating.com or use this direct order link

Free CD with book!

Free Audio CD with each book!
(available for a limited time while supplies last)

Great gift for a single friend or family member!


Everything You Really Need to Know About Conscious Relationships

Thursday January 12, 2006
5:30pm pacific/8:30pm eastern

With Gay Hendricks, Ph.D. and Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D.

Authors of the ground-breaking book Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment,
and more recently, the outstanding Lasting Love: The 5 Secrets of Growing a Vital, Conscious Relationship

In this program we'll explore:

  • How to expand our capacity to give and receive love on a daily basis
  • The power of commitment
  • Radical responsibility: from blame to wonder
  • Speaking and listening in a way that stops arguments and opens vitality

No need to register! As a subscriber you will receive a reminder with the telephone bridge number needed to join a few days prior to the seminar.

Please share with your colleagues!


Introduction to Relationship Coaching

Starts February 7

Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop a successful Relationship Coaching practice, taught by RCI founder David Steele and his teaching staff.

Introduction to Relationship Coaching includes 3 one-hour tele-classes, Tuesdays, December 6, 13, 20,, 2005; 9:00am pacific/Noon eastern.

Class #1 How to Coach Singles Feb 7
Class #2 How to Coach Couples Feb 14
Class #3 How to Build a Successful Relationship Coaching Practice Feb 21

Each class includes practical information and materials you can use immediately in your practice.

Can't make our training dates/times? Each class is recorded for those unable to attend, and we also offer an ON-LINE VERSION.

Please share with your colleagues! To register or for more information, visit /forms/freeteleclass.htm


Relationship Coaching
Home Study Program

Now Available

111-page manual and 6-CD set recorded from live one-day Relationship Coaching workshops covering how to coach singles, pre-committed and committed couples.

Check it out here


Welcome New RCI Coaches

The following professionals recently joined our ranks:

Sheila Bennett, MSW

Philadelphia, PA

Lois Galloway Ontario, Canada
Michael Murray Toronto, Canada
Rachel Sarah Berkeley, CA
Michele White Dacula, GA

Feature Article:
Three Keys to Making Conscious Choices in 2006

By David Steele

In this first month of a new year I'd like to declare 2006 the "Year of Conscious Choices." Our planet would work so much better if all choices were conscious.

(Note: see below for free Making Conscious Choices audio program.)

What does it mean to be "Conscious?"

To illustrate, I propose the following three levels of consciousness:

1. Unconscious (awake but unaware)

This is when you forget where you put your keys, leave the headlights on and are surprised by a dead battery, drive past your freeway exit, etc. You're simply not paying attention.

If life is like an iceberg, when we're unconscious we crash and sink before we see it.

2. Semi-conscious (aware of what’s in front of you)

This is when you're sure you know what's what. We believe that our stories (beliefs, interpretations, etc) and sensory perceptions (see, hear, feel, etc) are true and correct.

If life is like an iceberg, when we're semi-conscious we're aware of the iceberg and truly believe we know how to avoid it, then crash and sink because it's larger than we thought.

3. Conscious (aware of the big picture)

This is when we humbly understand that "you don't know what you don't know," and realize that there may be more to a situation than we can see or understand at the time. We are aware of our goal and do our best to learn more about the situation and examine our options to make the best possible choice.

If life is like an iceberg, when we're conscious we realize that we need to know more about what's under the surface before making our choices about how to proceed.

Three Keys to Making Conscious Choices

1. Be clear about who you are and what you want

What's the purpose of your life? What is your Vision for your life, work, and relationships? What are your requirements, needs, and wants in any situation?

Strive to lower the waterline on the iceberg that is your Self to achieve the clarity you need to be motivated and empowered.

2. Stay focused on what's important to you- don't settle for less

Most people "lead lives of quiet desperation." They want to be happy, but don't know how and don't think it's possible. However, the Law of Attraction can work for you or against you, and if you expect less, you'll get less.

Go after what you really want in your life and assume you can find the choices needed to be successful if you're looking for them.

3. Be supportable- with enough help you can do anything!

We're human, and no-one is successful alone. We need to be conscious of our support needs and proactively seek to get them met.

Continually ask yourself what help you need and who can help you.

Wishing you a healthy, happy, conscious New Year.

©2006 by David Steele

A New Year's Gift for You!

Listen to a recorded version of this timely, inspirational seminar-

Making Conscious Choices:
Three Keys to Your Success

(30 min- recorded from a live seminar)

Did you know that David Steele is a professional speaker? For more information about David's professional speaking please visit www.consciousrelationshipspeaker.com

David Steele, MA, LMFT is founder of Relationship Coaching Institute and author of the ground-breaking new book for singles Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today's World. www.ConsciousDating.com



Invitation #1
I invite you to share your announcements, wins, coaching or practice tips with the rest of us. Be visible! Let's connect!  Send them to me at David@member.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com

Invitation #2
I invite you to share this newsletter with a colleague.  There is a tremendous need for our services, and we need to work together. Relationship Coaching is in its infancy, and we must collaborate to build our market niche and position as a resource of wide appeal for anyone who wants a successful relationship.

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Invitation #3
I invite you to listen to the following introductory recordings 24 hours a day at your convenience by visiting /audio/index.htm (some are available by telephone)

  • Commitment: The Secret Ingredient to Relationship Happiness
  • The Communication Map™
  • Introduction to Relationship coaching
  • All about RCI
  • Practice Building Intensive (sample conference call)
  • And more!

Invitation #4
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Invitation #5
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Invitation #6
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How do you like our newsletter? Your feedback is welcome!  Until next time....

Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute
Telephone:  888.268.4074


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