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------------------------------------------------------------- Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop a successful Relationship Coaching practice, taught by RCI founder David Steele and his teaching staff. "Introduction to Relationship Coaching"- 3 one-hour teleclasses, Tuesdays, April 6, 13, 20, 2004; 9:00am pacific/Noon eastern.
Each class includes practical information and materials you can use immediately in your practice. Please share with your colleagues! To register, visit http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/forms/freeteleclass.htm Can't make our training dates/times? Each class is recorded for those unable to attend, and we also offer an ON-LINE VERSION. For more info visit: http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/forms/freeteleclass.htm --------------------------------------------------------------- OWNING YOUR NICHE BY BUILDING A NICHE COMMUNITY In this seminar we will provide an in-depth look at:
Don't miss this seminar- put it on your calendar today! No need to register. This seminar is FREE for subscribers of our free monthly practice-building newsletter How to Get Clients. To subscribe and receive your invitation to this seminar, please visit: http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com Next Month's Program: Please share with your colleagues! --------------------------------------------------------------- Register Now for April Practice Building Intensive!
If so, then join our April Practice Building Intensive! We will meet for 12 weeks on every Thursday at 12 noon EST beginning April 8th, and you will learn everything you need to have a successful private practice. This step-by-step program includes:
Facilitated by David Steele, Mentor Coach and Author of "How To Build Your Ideal Practice In 90 Days," and Jackie Black, Ph.D., And the REALLY great news is that this program is very affordable. Now is the time to jump in and get the information and support you need to build your ideal practice. For more information visit: http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com/practicebuildingintensive.html --------------------------------------------------------------------- These things always take longer than expected, but our "Conscious Dating" branded website for RCI coaches is ready for beta testing. Please check it out at http://sv.consciousdating.org/ If you are single, please click "Find Your Conscious Match" and post your profile- it's free! This will help us test the system, and it could help you find your soul mate. In a month or so we will launch "Conscious Dating" branded turn-key business packages for Certified and Master RCI coaches that wish to be leaders of relationship coaching for singles in their area or niche, including:
Our intention is to help you become wildly successful as the top resource for conscious singles in your area or niche. Please visit http://sv.consciousdating.org/ and let us know what you think. We are doing this for you- your comments and suggestions are welcome! ---------------------------------------------------------------- ~ April 6; Singles Coaching with Lynne Michelson Our conference calls are FREE to RCI Coaches, and fall on the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd Tuesday of each month, 2:00pm pacific/5pm eastern. The RCI Member Support Forum meets Mondays at 3pm eastern. A reminder including the bridge # is sent prior to each call on our listserv. ----------------------------------------------------------------- The International Coach Federation completed a survey of its members in 2003 and published their preliminary findings at http://www.coach-federation.org/coaching_survey/index.asp Some results: Congrats!
CONGRATS TO Marvin Cohen (San Jose, CA) who is conducting the very first RESTS program at Esalen, the revered birthplace of the new age movement in CA:
Marvin Cohen (http://www.RCISV.org/marvbio.htm ), President, Relationship Coaching Institute Silicon Valley (RCISV), Cofounder of RCI, and Narrye Caldwell-Cohen (http://www.journeytowholeness.org/ ) will present a 5 day residential, experiential training designed for both singles desiring a life-partner and people wanting clarity in their existing relationships. Known as the "Carnegie Hall" of human potential, Esalen Institute (http://www.esalen.org/) was founded in 1962. Rich in history, it is located on the magnificent Big Sur Coastline of California. To register, or for more information: www.RCISV.org/EsalenWorkshop CONGRATS TO Mari Smith (San Diego, CA) who writes: "I am appearing as a guest on an Internet radio show called "Dating and Relating" on Tuesday, March 16th. The show runs 4-5pm PST every Tuesday. This week's show is all about Relationship Coaches! Since the show launched just last month, their guests have included:
To tune in: go to http://www.wsradio.com/dating/ and click on "Listen Live." To listen to the segment after the show, just click on "Archives." I'm thrilled about this opportunity!” --------------------------------------------------------- Our coaches are certainly committed, talented, and making things happen! It is my honor to be part of this community that is making such a difference in the lives and relationships of others. Have a win you would like to share? Any graduates from your RCI coaching 'find the love of their life and the life that they love?' Please pass it on and we'll celebrate it! Feature ArticleTHE SEX TRAP: THE 14TH DATING TRAP As I had my morning coffee, the "Dear Abby" column caught my eye. A reader wrote in with a dating dilemma and ended her letter with that often-heard stereotype that "Women use sex to get love, and men use love to get sex." This is a great summation of the "Sex Trap." The Sex Trap is similar to the Love Trap, where singles interpret good sex as love. But those who fall into the Sex Trap go even farther, because for these singles, having sex carries immense meaning and consequences. Singles fall into the Sex Trap in one (or both) of two ways:
So, rather than looking at whether this other person might be a match on levels other than physical attraction — such as long-term requirements, needs, and wants — they are blind-sided by the chemistry under the covers. No doubt, it can be challenging to keep in touch with reality when all those hormones are running wild. Our body reacts to someone we are attracted to by producing hormones such as PEA or phenylethylamine (natural amphetamine), dopamine and norepinephrine (natural mood enhancers), and testosterone (increases sexual desire), which makes the opportunity to have sex with someone we are attracted to extremely hard to resist. Then, after orgasm, we produce oxytocin (which acts on the hypothalamus to produce emotions), which makes us feel very close to and bonded with our sex partner. These chemical reactions are involuntary and strong, leading to powerful feelings of attraction, excitement, love, closeness, and well-being. But when problems arise, those who fall into the Sex Trap often rationalize by thinking, "Well, we've got problems, but the sex is great!" They most likely wouldn't admit it, but they prioritize physical intimacy and regard the rest as optional. Their main scouting tools are sexual attraction and physical compatibility. Barry North, an RCI coach who works primarily with gay men, says that many of his clients have fallen into the Sex Trap. "For gay men especially in metropolitan areas, sex is readily available, and that in itself is a trap," North says. "In addition, the culture, with its emphasis on physical appearance, encourages sexual activity. Many gay men want to find out from the beginning if a potential partner is going to be sexually compatible. Why waste your time if the sex isn't going to be good?" Nonetheless, North adds, "I suspect this is a 'guy' thing rather than a 'gay' thing." I do want to point out that chemistry is important. Yet, chemistry is a given that we can't control in a relationship; it is either there or not there, and it must be there for the partnership to work. If not there, we can't "make" chemistry happen, though sometimes it can grow over time. Singles who pursue a relationship based upon sexual chemistry risk relationship failure when the hormone-induced intoxication wears off and reality hits. To avoid the Sex Trap, you must balance your heart (and hormones) with your head. This means combining chemistry with common sense. While good sex is important for a sustainable relationship, you need to make your partner choices by paying full attention to your vision, values, goals and requirements — while feeling all those exciting sparks! © 2004 by David Steele / All right reserved / Invitations:
How do you like our newsletter? Your feedback is welcome! Until next time.... Best regards, PAST ISSUES OF THIS NEWSLETTER CAN BE FOUND HERE The purpose of this newsletter is to connect, support each other, inform, and build a strong community of coaches dedicated to helping people find fulfillment in their lives and relationships. This monthly newsletter is written for the benefit of RCI Relationship Coaches, and is available to interested others. Feel free to share this with a colleague. Your submissions and feedback are welcome! Our Mission: To provide the tools, information and support to help singles find the love of their life and the life that they love, and to help couples co-create fulfilling and lasting Life Partnerships. Copyright notice: This newsletter is copyrighted and all rights are reserved. Feel free to share with others as long as our contact information and authorship is included. U.S. Library of Congress ISSN#:1530-3055 To subscribe to our newsletters, visit here. |
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