Register Now for January Practice Building Intensive
January DISC Relationship Assessment Trainings
Coming Soon: Bring "Conscious Dating" to Your Area or Niche
RCI Conference Calls
A Tribute to Ken Donaldson
Latest Stats on US Singles
------------------------------------------------------------- 1. FREE TRAINING BEGINS DECEMBER 2ND
Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop a
successful Relationship Coaching practice, taught by
RCI founder David Steele and his teaching staff.
"Introduction to Relationship Coaching"-
3 one-hour teleclasses, Tuesdays, Dec 2, 9, and 16;
9:00am pacific/Noon eastern.
December 2: Class #1: How to Coach Singles
December 9: Class #2: How to Coach Couples
December 16: Class #3: How to Build a Successful
Relationship
Coaching Practice
Each class includes practical information and materials you
can use immediately in your practice.
Please share with your colleagues! To register, visit
http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/forms/freeteleclass.htm
Can't make our training dates/times? Each class is recorded
for those unable to attend, and we also offer an ON-LINE
VERSION. For more info visit
http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/forms/freeteleclass.htm
--------------------------------------------------------------- 2. FREE TELE-SEMINAR- ANSWERING YOUR CALL
Mark your calendar for Wednesday, December 3rd, for a very
special, year-end seminar by John Schuster, author of
ANSWERING YOUR CALL, who will present how to discover and
live your Purpose.
This is the perfect seminar to prepare for a meaningful
ending to 2003 and the beginning of a new year energized
with passion and purpose.
In this session we will cover:
-Important ideas about callings, how to live them, and
how to help others discover theirs
-The myth of one calling per lifetime, and will instead
explore the idea of a portfolio of calls that comprise our
lives and our work
-About saboteurs and evocateurs as life positions that
anyone wanting to live a called life needs to know about
and consider
-How to work with and not against the ego, the great
tainter of calls
Expect a fun and impactful session from an expert on purpose
and meaning in our everyday lives. This is the perfect
seminar to help you reflect upon this past year and prepare
for a powerful new year.
No need to register. This seminar is FREE for subscribers of
our free monthly practice-building newsletter YOUR PINNACLE
PRACTICE. To subscribe and receive your invitation to this
seminar, please visit
http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com
Next Month's Program: ENDLESS REFERRALS with David Steele.
Start the new year by learning how to:
-Effectively develop endless referrals from colleagues
and allied professionals
-Stimulate endless referrals from past and current clients
-Get endless referrals from people that don't even know you!
Please share with your colleagues!
--------------------------------------------------------------- 3. REGISTER NOW FOR JANUARY PRACTICE BUILDING INTENSIVE
-Ready to build your ideal practice?
-Want to work less and make more?
-Would you like to learn how you can actually have fun
building and marketing your business?
If so, then join our January Practice Building Intensive!
We will meet for 12 weeks every Thursday at 9AM pacific/Noon
eastern beginning January 8th and you will learn everything
you need to have a successful private practice.
Best of all, this program is VERY affordable, with
BuildingYourIdealPractice.com membership plans starting at
$29.00 per month!
RCI coaches register by e-mailing Brenda (included in RCI
membership)
Now is the time to jump in and get the information and
support you need to build your ideal practice. For more info
visit
http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com/practicebuildingintensive.html
--------------------------------------------------------------- 4. JANUARY DISC RELATIONSHIP ASSESSMENT TRAININGS
The DiSC In-Depth Relationship Assessment (INDRA) brings a
new level of understanding to relationships:
-Measures the relationships of people, providing individuals,
couples, families and groups with feedback concerning
the potential for effectiveness and comfort.
-Maps areas of compatibility and incompatibility, pinpointing
individuals' differences and providing insight about
how to work and live effectively together.
-Provides actionable insight for individuals, couples,
families and groups.
The assessment is taken on-line and results are delivered
immediately to you or your client...you decide. You will
have the ability to manage all the assessments through your
on-line "dashboard" that is provided when you complete the
training. The training will provide hands on learning. Each
registrant will have an opportunity to take the assessment
prior to the training.
Training #1 (optional): Discover DISC Basics Jan 8, 15, 22,
29, Noon pacific/3pm eastern
Training #2: DISC In-Depth Relationship Assessment (INDRA)
January 8, 15, 22, 29, 1:30pm pacific/4:30pm eastern
Mark your calendar now! Conducted by Vicki Simmons. Watch
RCI listserv for registration info.
FOR MORE INFORMATION:
-Listen to "INTRODUCTION DISC INDRA at
http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/audio/index.htm
-Read "DISCOVER YOUR RELATIONSHIP STYLE" at
http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/newsletter/2003-07.htm
-Visit http://www.mypracticebuilder.com or
http://www.discprofileinfo.com/products.asp
-Contact Vicki at vicki@vickisimmons.com
--------------------------------------------------------------------- 5. COMING SOON- BRING “CONSCIOUS DATING” TO YOUR AREA OR
NICHE
In a few months we will launch “Conscious Dating” branded
turn-key business packages for Certified and Master RCI
coaches that wish to be leaders of relationship coaching for
singles in their area or niche, including:
-“Conscious Dating” branded website, all content included
-On-line dating feature for passive income
-Customizable for your area or niche
-User-modifiable area for calendar, schedule of events, etc.
-Monthly e-mail newsletter, templates for forms and
business cards, etc.
-Mentoring and technical support (you will NOT be alone!)
-And more!
Our intention is to help you become wildly successful as the
top resource for conscious singles in your area or niche.
You can check our progress on our prototype website at
http://sv.consciousdating.org/
Your comments and suggestions are welcome!
~ December 2; Singles Coaching with Laurie Cameron
~ December 9; Practice Development with Ken Donaldson
~ December 16; Couples Coaching with Linda Marshall
~ EVERY MONDAY; RCI Member Support Tele-Forum with David Steele
Our conference calls are FREE to RCI Coaches, and fall on
the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd Tuesday of each month, 2:00pm pacific/5pm
eastern. The RCI Member Support Forum meets Mondays at 3pm
eastern.
-------------------------------------------------------------- 7. A TRIBUTE TO KEN DONALDSON
Ken Donaldson, my friend and business partner returned from
the ICF conference a few weeks ago on fire with a commitment
to pursue his ideal practice that, unfortunately, meant
resigning as Director of Practice Development for RCI and as
President of BYIP.com.
While I'm sad to see him move on, I have tremendous respect
and appreciation that he is walking his talk and moving on
for all the right reasons. I know he loves his work here at
RCI and we have a lot of fun together, so I know this
decision must be very hard for him.
In addition to being a talented therapist and coach, Ken is
an award-winning nature photographer with a vision of
combining his passion for helping people with his art. To
check out his photography work visit
http://www.kenileephotos.com
I have no doubt that Ken's moving on will open new doors for
him, as well as for RCI.
Thank you Ken for lending us your heart, talent, passion,
experience, and knowledge, and helping our programs evolve
to where we are today. We wish you the best and look forward
to your continued participation in our community.
---------------------------------------------------------------- 8. LATEST STATS ON SINGLES IN U.S.
US Census Bureau released a new report revising upwards the
# of U.S. singles dated October 2003 at
http://www.census.gov/prod/2003pubs/c2kbr-30.pdf
reporting:
-Total adults in US (15+)- 221,148,671
-Total currently married- 120.2 million or 54.4%
-Widowed or divorced- 41 million or 18.5%
Never married- 59.9 million or 27.1%
>>>>Total singles: 101 million or 46%
(in round #'s, revised upwards from 82 million and 43% after
2000 census)
Welcome New RCI Coaches!
The following coaches joined our ranks this past month:
Margaret Hall, LCSW, Atlanta, GA
Anna Harding, Easton, MD
Jill Hendrickson, MS, Fresno, CA
Chana Klein, MA, Teaneck, NJ
JoAnn Marini, MA, San Diego, CA
Noelle Randall, Chapel Hill, NC
THANK YOU for telling your colleagues about RCI!
Congrats!
CONGRATS TO Laura Delgado (Denison, TX) who writes:
”I was a featured guest on a WBAP (Houston) radio show with
Sandra Yancey, CEO of eWomen Network. It went really well. I
just went ahead with your comments and marketing strategies.
Asked for the chance to be on the program and got it!!!
Click below to listen to the recorded program!” http://www.wbap.com/listingsEntry.asp?ID=55125&PT=wbapfeatures
CONGRATS TO Ken Donaldson (Largo, FL) who writes about ICF 2003:
"Now that the dust has settled and I am in somewhat of a normal routine, I wanted to share with each of you my ICF conference experience. Let me start by saying, “Wow!!” I was at the ICF conference a few years ago when it was in Orlando and I have to say that it has not only grown tremendously (I think I heard that there were about 1200 people there this year), but also it has gotten even better…in fact, it has gotten more better!
I was in the RCI/BYIP booth most of the time and
did not attend any of the sessions, but was there
ever some wonderful “buzzing” going on. The level
of positive energy was hard to compare to anywhere
else that I have experienced.
I met so many wonderful new people, but one of the
BEST highlights was actually meeting the people
that I have talked with over the phone and
exchanged e-mails with for so long. We are truly
blessed with an amazing community of wisdom,
experience, fun, and encouragement…..I feel more
blessed that ever! And do you all ever know how to
party!!
The space of being around all these “possibility,
purpose, and passion” people had some additional
side-effects. I believe it invited us all to
really look at who we are, where we are going, and
what we all about. I was personally reminded of my
purpose, my vision, and my path. It was a great
time and space to do some inner inventorying and
reflection…..and so to ICF I say “Thank You” from
the bottom of my Heart and the depths of my Soul.
CONGRATS TO Mari Smith (San Diego, CA) who writes:
"I am SO excited to share that tomorrow morning I will be on local television - KUSI morning news, channel #9 if you're in the San Diego area!
Apparently it is Relationship Week - not sure if that's
local, national or ? KUSI is doing a week-long special on
relationships and I'm covering the segment on "Finding Love
After 30/40+". They are focusing on what busy professionals
are doing to meet like-minded singles. Of course I'll be
talking about the Four Levels of Attraction Venues!
Check your local news to see if Relationship Week applies in
your area - perhaps there are more opportunities for media
exposure.”
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Our coaches are certainly committed, talented, and making
things happen! It is my honor to be part of this community that is
making such a difference in the lives and relationships of
others.
Have a win you would like to share? Any graduates from your
coaching 'find the love of their life and the life that they
love?' Please pass it on and we'll celebrate it!
Feature Article
How To Be A Great Coach
by David Steele
To be honest, I consider myself a “good” coach, but not a “great” coach. What's the difference? A good coach is
skilled at helping their clients achieve their goals, a
GREAT coach facilitates their client's ability to achieve
their own goals.
Get the difference? Two things interfere with my being a “great” coach:
I'm an inveterate “helper.” I love to help and be the
rescuer and hero. That's why I became a counselor and
therapist 25 years ago.
I intentionally mix teaching and consulting with my
coaching. My coaching niches require specialized information
and I tell myself that I can't be a flat mirror for my
clients if they are to be successful.
Still, I have experienced some truly great coaches and have
tremendous respect and appreciation for their ability to be
invisible and facilitate their client's greatness. They are
able to maintain and sustain a “coaching attitude” with
their clients like a perfectly still pond at sunrise,
totally focus on their client, seemingly always quiet and
centered, almost effortlessly illuminating their client's
brilliance. They empower their clients and live by the
attitude “Give me a fish, I eat for a day; teach me to fish
and I eat for a lifetime,” however, they are masters at
transparently leading their clients through a discovery and
learning process without directly teaching them. While I can
do this part of the time, great coaches maintain this
attitude all of the time with their clients.
To define my terms:
COACHING: Helping your client define what they want and
supporting them to reach their goals. (“I want to learn how
to fish and will take my first fishing trip by the end of
the year”)
CONSULTING: Providing specific, targeted advice and
information your client needs to be successful. (“What
licenses do I need? What lures should I use? Where are the
best places to fish?”)
TEACHING: Providing general information and structuring
skill-building opportunities for your client to learn what
they need to be successful. (“Will you show me how to
fish?”)
THERAPY: Diagnosing and treating your clients' clinical
disorders, and/or helping them heal emotional wounds, and/or
addressing internal obstacles to their successful
functioning. (“I'm angry with my father because he never
took me fishing with him when I was young.”)
My sense is that being a great coach is like any other
skill, such as playing the violin, basketball, ballet
dancing, etc; the great ones are passionate about their
skill, study long and hard, and practice it full time. I
suppose that's why I'll never be great, as my coaching has
to share space with training relationship coaches, teaching
practice development, writing, and my various
entrepreneurial ventures.
Want to be a great coach? Some suggestions:
Join International Coach Federation and/or International
Association of Coaches. Go to their conferences, join your
local chapter, be active in your professional community and
hang out with your fellow coaches. http://www.coachfederation.org http://www.certifiedcoach.org
Get thorough training by the best coach training school
you can find that fits with your values. If your goal is
certification, be sure to choose a school accredited by the
certifying agency (see #3 below). We partner with and
recommend the venerable Coach U: http://www.coachinc.com
Be an enthusiastic client. Work with the best mentor
coach you can find. Ask other coaches for recommendations.
Do your practice development homework and build a
successful practice so you can focus on your coaching
instead of survival. Check out my book and program at
http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com
Maintain daily focus on your self-awareness and
development to reinforce your ability to effectively
strengthen and sustain your “coaching attitude.” For
example, maintain a “Daily Balance Practice” such as
meditation, journaling, exercise, etc, that allows you to
get and stay centered and grounded, mentally, emotionally,
and spiritually.
I humbly applaud those that are, or aspire to be, a great
coach. I hope this article enhances your appreciation for
them, further clarifies for you what coaching is and is not,
and gives you some ideas for how you can become a “great” coach if that is your desire.
I invite you to share your announcements, wins, coaching or practice tips with the rest of us. Be visible! Let's connect! Send them to me at
I invite you to share this newsletter with a colleague. There is a tremendous need for our services, and we need to work together. Relationship Coaching is in its infancy, and we must collaborate to build our market niche and position as a resource of wide appeal for anyone who wants a successful relationship. To pass the word about us to a friend or colleague, please visit http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com/tellafriend.html
Finding The Love Of Your Life AND The Life That You Love
Conscious Dating For Relationship Success
All About RCI
Practice Building Intensive (sample conference call)
Radical Thoughts on Converting Prospects to Clients
How To Design Compelling Marketing Strategies That Attracts Clients
And more!
I invite you to get the support you need to be successful in your practice. We are available for information, training, ideas, mentor coaching, etc.
If you are a coach or therapist who received this from a colleague, I invite you to visit our web site and contact us for information on joining us and becoming a RelationshipCoachingInstitute Relationship Coach. Ask about getting a free copy of our introductory audiotape, and about our free teleclasses.
To subscribe to this newsletter, our newsletter for SINGLES, or our newsletter for COUPLES, or our PRACTICE BUILDING newsletter, see this page.
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How do you like our newsletter? Your feedback is welcome! Until next time....
Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute
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