Exclusive for Coach U students and grads! Learn how to coach
singles, couples, and develop a successful Relationship
Coaching practice, taught by RCI founder David Steele and
his teaching staff.
" Introduction to Relationship Coaching"-
3 one-hour teleclasses, Tuesdays, July 15, 22, 29;
10:00am pacific/1:00pm eastern.
July 15th: Class #1: How to Coach Singles
July 22nd: Class #2: How to Coach Couples
July 29th: Class #3: How to Build a Successful Relationship
Coaching Practice
Each class includes practical information and materials you
can use immediately in your practice.
Please share with your colleagues! To register, visit
2. JULY PRACTICE BUILDING INTENSIVE- 60% DISCOUNT!
To celebrate the release of the print version of “HOW TO
BUILD YOUR IDEAL PRACTICE IN 90 DAYS” and the official
launch of http://www.BuildingYourIdealPractice.com we are offering
a SIXTY PERCENT DISCOUNT on the Practice Building Intensive
that begins July 1st.
Summer is the best time to do this program to prepare for a
fall launch of your ideal practice.
Includes:
-Weekly conference calls with David Steele and Ken
Donaldson
-E-mail support
-E-book version of “Building Your Ideal Practice in 90 Days”
-Supplementary materials and audio programs
-Supportive PBI community
Normally $249.00, the July PBI is only $95.00 until July
7th. Even better, check out our “GO-GETTERS CLUB.”
. 'Practical solutions that really work'
. 'Rich in content'
. 'Complete road map'
. 'Simple, yet powerful'
. 'I'm working less, making more'
Want a preview? Listen to an outstanding free audio program
featuring David Steele and Ken Donaldson presenting simple,
effective, affordable ways to get powerful results from your
marketing efforts.
To listen, visit http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com/topfivetips.html
3. WELCOME PAUL AND LAYNE CUTRIGHT TO RCI FACULTY! “BLISS”
COACHING TRAINING COMING
RCI Coaches are very familiar with Layne and Paul for their
wonderful contributions to our community, such as EFT, CURE,
“ Heart to Heart” book, and more.
The Cutrights have accepted our invitation to join our
faculty and conduct our Level III Couples Coaching Training
for coaching couples in the “Bliss” stage of relationship
coaching, which helps couples develop a fulfilling
emotional, physical, and spiritual relationship.
As you may know, we identify 5 stages of relationship
coaching (Readiness, Attraction, Pre-Commitment, Coupling,
and Bliss) and their training will round out and complete
our curriculum.
We are very excited and honored to have them join us! Watch
for announcements of their first Bliss Coaching Training to
start in the fall.
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4. FREE EFT MANUAL! JULY EFT TRAINING SCHEDULED
Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) are simple and
effective ways to handle undesired emotional
reactions. They are easily learned and you can
teach them to your clients.
'Emotional Freedom Techniques: The New Approach to
Personal Power That Works!' is available free from RCI
thanks to Layne and Paul Cutright, who have pioneered
the use of EFT with relationships.
We have had glowing feedback about Paul Cutright
and his EFT training from participating RCI
coaches. The next EFT basic training is scheduled
for Monday thru Friday July 7 - 11, 2003 at 8pm
EST, 5pm PST.
For discounted registration for RCI coaches and
newsletter subscribers.
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5. FIRST DISC RELATIONSHIP ASSESSMENT TRAINING SCHEDULED FOR
JULY
I'm pleased to announce our first ever DiSC In-Depth
Relationship Assessment (INDRA) training and certification
with RCI Coach Vicki Simmons.
See this month’s feature article “Discover Your Relationship
Style” for more information on this promising, brand new
relationship assessment.
This first training is exclusively for RCI coaches and
limited to only 8 participants to ensure personal attention
and a high quality training.
Four Wednesdays, July 9, 16, 23, and 30
4:00-5:30pm pacific/ 7:00-8:30pm eastern (90 minutes). Watch
the RCI Coach listserv for registration information.
RelationshipCoachingInstitute.com has officially been sent out to
pasture. That URL will now forward to http://www.Relationshipcoachingnetwork.org
Visitors to http://www.RelationshipCoachingNetwork.org will be
directed to:
http://www.ConsciousDating.org for singles
http://www.PartnersInLife.org for couples
http://www.RelationshipCoachFinder.com to find a relationship coach
http://www.RelationshipCoachingInstitute.com for professionals
http://www.BuildingYourIdealPractice.com for private practice
professionals
When you join as a free member you will be able to sign up
for our brand new free “Partners In Life” 5-week e-program
for couples
Similar to www.ConsciousDating.org, couples that join as
free members will be able to access benefits such as audio
programs, e-programs, cutting-edge relationship information,
access our community of Partners In Life couples and
professionals.
http://www.PartnersInLife.org and http://www.ConsciousDating.org replace
RelationshipCoachingInstitute.com to steer singles and couples to RCI
coaches for individual coaching, teleclasses, local
programs, etc. Congratulations to President Tim Rhodes, and
webmaster Ken Douglass for their great work putting this
together (still in progress).
All couple referrals generated by http://www.partnersinlife.org go
to the RCI coaches listed at http://www.partnersinlife.org/coach/ and all the listed
programs and services will be delivered by our certified and
master RCI coaches.
Hopefully, this will be an incentive for you to join RCI,
get listed on this website, and become certified!
Visit http://www.PartnersInLife.org and check out the cool
multi-media intro- be sure to turn up your speakers and put
up your feet!
Please pass the word to your couple friends, family, and
colleagues.
~ July 1st; Singles Coaching with Laurie Cameron
~ July 8th; Practice Development with Ken Donaldson
~ July 15th; Couples Coaching with Linda Marshall
~ EVERY MONDAY; RCI Member Support Tele-Forum with David
Steele
Our conference calls are FREE to RCI Coaches, and fall on
the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd Tuesday of each month, 2:00pm
pacific/5pm eastern. The RCI Member Support Forum meets
Mondays at 3pm eastern.
9. NEW PRACTICE BUILDING WEBSITE AND NEWSLETTER LAUNCHED
The practice building information and tips that readers of
“ Relationship Coaching News” are accustomed to getting here
have moved to our NEW monthly newsletter “YOUR PINNACLE
PRACTICE” at www.BuildingYourIdealPractice.com
This month’s feature article is “Basics of Trademarks and
Copyrights.”
Paula Iland, an RCI Coach from Sydney, Australia, passed
away June 14th.
Paula was very special and will be dearly missed in our
community. Below is from RCI Coach Julie Towers who gave us
permission to share this in honor of Paula:
”Paula was such an inspiration to me....and to all of us in
the coaching community. She and I took many coaching
classes together. She would take those classes in the
middle of the night sometimes to be on teleclasses with her
coaching teams. It was incredible dedication.
Her passion for single women and guiding them to fulfilling
lives will forever give me courage... and the hope that my
life partner may just be out there somewhere.
On the morning of September 11 one of the first emails I
received was from Paula. Her words to me were so calming
and understanding. Even though she was in Australia and I
was in Colorado USA she helped me to see the world as one
big family. Words will never express the comfort I shared
with my friends and family from her email. It helped those
of us in the United States to know that other countries
really did care about us and our losses. She was always so
thoughtful.
Paula and I shared our marketing thoughts and encouraged
each other back and forth through the years... and I came to
love her as a friend and a soul sister. I will miss her
dearly.
I will strive to carry on Paula's love for others and her
passion for women over 50 to find the love of their life…
always.
She left an imprint on all of our lives and hearts that will
never be forgotten.”
Julie Towers
Welcome New RCI Coaches!
The following coaches joined our ranks this past month:
Collene Dahlby, Halifax, Nova Scotia
Lois Evans, MS, London, UK
Robert Hartford, MSW, Washington DC
Kirsten Nieradtka, MBA, Chicago, IL
Brian Richards, MBA, Brisbane, Australia
Jennifer Roberts, MSW, New York, NY
Eric Schneider, Ph.D., New York, NY
Theresa Sives, Musselburgh Scotland
THANK YOU for telling your colleagues about RCI!
Congrats!
CONGRATS TO RCI Director of Singles Programs Laurie Cameron for graduating from Coach U! She writes:
"I am pleased to announce that, after quite some time (3
years & 9 months!), I have completed the requirements for
graduation from Coach University! It was a powerful journey
that allowed me to connect with coaches all over the world,
and I am grateful for that. And I continue
on my path, onward and upward!
I appreciate that you are a part of my extraordinary
journey, thank you!”
CONGRATS TO Marcy Moore and Pam Williams (Seminole, FL) who write:
”One of our PBI goals was to have at least 10 people
attending our monthly singles events - well, on Tuesday
night (our 2nd event) we had 13! 11 folks completed
evaluations and 8 of those gave us their contact information
and subscribed to our newsletter. Most said they
would be back next month and tell their friends.
Thanks David and Ken for your support, your generosity and
your weekly kicks in the pants!”
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Our coaches are certainly committed, talented, and making
things happen! It is my honor to be part of this community
that is making such a difference in the lives and
relationships of others.
Have a win you would like to share? Any graduates from your
RCI coaching 'find the love of their life and the life that
they love?' Please pass it on and we'll celebrate it!
Feature Article
DISCOVER YOUR RELATIONSHIP STYLE
by Vicki Simmons, LMSW/ACP, Life Coach
I use the new DISC “In-Depth Relationship Assessment”
(INDRA) with Singles and Couples. The DISC approach offers
that there are no bad relationships only relationships that
require more or less energy. DISC emphasizes that it is not
about changing “who you are”, but adding/modifying behaviors
that increase effectiveness and comfort in relationships.
It is your choice.
DISC is another wonderful tool which lends itself to
nonjudgmental ways of talking about similarities and
differences. The assessments assume that we all have a
psychological space in which we live. Even though we do not
live in another’s space we may visit other spaces. When I
visit other spaces I will take with me behaviors I have been
taught to do and this requires energy. It is our quest as
coaches to find ways to help our clients discover the tools
that will enable them to show up with more energy and
confidence.
CASE EXAMPLE #1:
She is a 37 year old woman, divorced after 17 years of
marriage. She had slipped into the internet dating game and
was discovering that she was so desperate to have a man in
her life that she was setting herself up to get hurt
repeatedly. She wanted the pattern to stop.
She decided to begin the RCI “Relationship Success Training
for Singles” (RESTS) program. This was really painful for
her because she had never considered herself worthy and
having needs and wants and the thought of requirements was
beyond her, at the time.
While working this program she also received intensive
therapy for reclaiming herself and healing the wounds of the
past. She took a break from the coaching during a portion
of that time period and when she returned she was open and
willing to identify requirements and develop an action plan
for supporting her boundaries.
I had her take the regular DiSC and the INDRA. She was
ready to really know herself and to learn how to better read
people. We had gone through the Social Effectiveness Skills
and the Dating Skills and had recently been working on
Intimacy Skills when she decided to revisit Requirements,
Wants and Needs.
This time she applied her interpersonal relationship style
knowledge from INDRA to take her requirements a step further
than she had previously. This also freed energy for her to
be authentic in relationships and assertive. She used the
people reading maps from the INDRA to help her with the
scouting, sorting, screening and testing. She has gained
confidence in her self and is recognizing the red flags and
moving on without shame.
CASE EXAMPLE #2:
He has a 6 year old son from his first marriage and has been
in his current marriage for 3 years. His complaint was
around having to communicate with the ex-wife. He wants to
be able to do things with his son and wants his son to not
get caught in the middle of issues between him and his
ex-wife. I had him take the INDRA.
Since we did not have the ex-wife take the assessment, we
decided to use the people reading maps in the INDRA to
determine where she would be likely to live on the map. We
then were able to engage in discussion and dialogue around
how their interpersonal styles could be effective together.
He was able to develop an action plan that helped him create
a win-win for him and his son, his wife, and his ex-wife.
He has since gone on to have his current wife take the INDRA
and they are using the strategies from their Dyad Report to
help them enrich their relationship and minimize the energy
drain that comes up for them when their styles are in
competition with one another.
CASE EXAMPLE #3:
She is 36 year old divorced mother of two children. After
grieving her divorce she decided she was ready to date.
She had gone through the RETS program and defined herself as
recreationally dating. She practiced being authentic,
telling people up front about her intent.
I had her take the INDRA and we used it to help her support
the boundaries she had defined for herself. She had a
tendency toward thinking something was wrong with her if
someone did not call her or follow through with plans in the
way that she expected.
She did not want that to get in the way of her newfound
lifestyle and choices so we began using the INDRA “people
map” to discuss different DiSC styles and how they may be in
relationships.
She was beaming at our last appointment together because she
had two victories. She had told a person after one date
that she did not want to see him again and reminded him that
she was recreationally dating not looking for a
relationship. He thought she was just saying that and would
change her mind after a date, she assured him that she was
clear about her boundaries and wished him luck in finding
the love of his life. She also had been successful in
recognizing a person’s interpersonal style and not taking
some things personally that in the past she would have
"soaked up like a sponge”.
She was feeling so confident about her people reading skills
that she decided to sign up for a local speed dating group.
She and I are still contracted for additional work however
at this time she is basking in her gains.
CONCLUSION
These are just a few examples of how I am integrating DISC
into the work with my clients. What I particularly like is
that it prompts discussion and dialogue around most of the
RCI materials.
Whether I am working with singles, couples committed or
pre-committed I find that it serves as a way to weave it all
together. My husband tells me that he likes the kind of
comedy where the comedian will weave a theme throughout
their performance, so even when you think he has traveled
away from it he finds a way to bring it back to the theme.
This is how I use DISC. I use it as the theme or leverage
to keep coming back to the importance of the person knowing
themselves in order to live the life that they love and for
those who choose, to find the love of their life.
RCI Coaches are invited to join Vicki for our first DiSC
INDRA training and certification,
Four Wednesdays, July 9, 16, 23, and 30
4:00-5:30pm pacific/ 7:00-8:30pm eastern (90 minutes). Watch
the RCI Coach listserv for registration information.
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Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of RelationshipCoachingInstitute/Relationship Coaching Institute
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