"Introduction To Relationship Coaching"; 3 one-hour teleclasses,
March 4, 6, and 8; 9:00am pacific/Noon eastern. We have updated the content
of this training to cover how to coach singles, couples, and develop
a successful Relationship Coaching practice. Please pass this on to your
colleagues! To register, visit here.
NINE CEU's are available for eligible mental health professionals participating
in this training. To qualify you must contact us PRIOR to the start of
the training- Jana@RelationshipCoachingInstitute.com
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2. "ALL ABOUT RCI" CONFERENCE CALL
This is a one-hour conference call for helping professionals interested
in RCI trainings, programs, and membership benefits. We detail our programs
and membership benefits and answer your questions.
=> Friday, March 11, 9am pacific/Noon eastern
Bridge # 865-362-4050 PIN 3011#
Curious about RCI/RCI? Join us! Please pass the word!
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3. A GIFT TO OUR SUBSCRIBERS
You are invited to join our next PRACTICE BUILDING INTENSIVE at no charge,
as our gift.
This proven, 3 month practice-building program includes weekly conference
calls, detailed, step-by-step assignments, and e-mail discussion listserv.
Starts April 4th.
Please forward this to your colleagues!
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4. NEW RCI RESOURCE LIST
For your reference, we have compiled a comprehensive list of over 220
benefits and resources for RCI Coaches, including relationship coaching
tools, handouts, marketing and practice development resources, etc. Please
check out http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/resources-members.htm
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5. UPDATED RESTS WORKBOOK
The Relationship Success For Singles workbook has been updated, and
is now available to RCI Coaches as a 4-part series described at http://ConsciousDating.org/members/rests-teleclasses.htm
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6. RELATIONSHIP READINESS QUIZ FOR SINGLES
This 10-question interactive web quiz helps singles determine their
level of readiness for a relationship, and provides personalized suggestions
for improvement. Great educational/marketing tool. Check it out at http://ConsciousDating.org/members/quiz/
RCI members can now add this quiz to their web site by contacting
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7. RCI COACH CONFERENCE CALLS
~March 5; Singles Coaching with Laurie Cameron
~March 12; Practice Development with Laurie Cameron
~March 19; Couples Coaching with Linda Marshall
Our conference calls are FREE to RCI Coaches, and fall on the 1st, 2nd,
and 3rd Tuesday of each month, 9:00am pacific/Noon eastern
Welcome New RCI Coaches!
The following coaches joined our ranks this past month:
Denise Kelley, MS, Ashville, NC
Tara Katchaturoff, MS, West Bloomfield, MI
Geri England, MS, Coppell, TX
Teresa Maria Napa, Chicago, IL
Laurie Johnson, Denver, CO
Patti Lustig, Minneapolis, MN
Congrats!
(Note to readers- the theme this month seems to be COLLABORATION. Read
below for some great examples of RCI coaches from different states partnering
up)
CONGRATS TO Dr. Jackie Black (Pasadena, CA) for being the first RCI
coach to install the "Relationship Readiness Quiz" on her
web site. Though it is still under construction, you can check her
progress at http://www.drjackieblack.com/quiz/
CONGRATS TO Helene Levin (Cherry Hill, NJ) and Caroline Minto (Scotland)
for collaborating on a teleclass program together- "Change Your
Thoughts-Change Your Life."
CONGRATS TO Charlie Siegel (Pasadena, CA) for taking the big step
of hiring a Virtual Assistant to free him up to build his practice.
His newsletter "On The Path" is great, and we look forward
to following his progress!
CONGRATS TO Linda Keyser (Seattle, WA) for adding speed dating as
a way to attract potential clients by offering "Rapid Rendevous"
(catchy!). Check out http://www.RapidRendezvous.com
CONGRATS TO John and Harriet Becker (Bethesda, MD) for
getting some great press in the Washington Post on 2/8/02 in a feature
article titled "Single-Minded Encounters"
CONGRATS TO Yvonne Chase (Brooklyn, NY) who writes about a radio
interview:
"the reporter called me at 6:45AM (yawn, yawn, dribble, dribble:-)
I was just rolling over. I prepared very well the night before. We
talked about what people should bring to a relationship and that gave
me a great opportunity to talk about who we are, what we want, and
how to get what we want - the focus
of RESTS. She wants to have me back and this time for a longer segment,
which will give me an even greater opportunity to talk more about the
RESTS program. I wish I knew about this program a long time ago - it
would've spared me many a heartache."
CONGRATS TO Susan Chapman (Louisville, KY) who writes:
"I've had an idea for quite a while to have a store for coaches.
I felt there was a real need for some generic coaching merchandise
especially sweatshirts/t-shirts/hats.
Well with the help of Christine Lockmon and Gene Lorenzo it's finally
a reality! Whooo Hoooooo!
Please check out www.cafepress.com/coachingzone
We have items available for you and your clients. Sweatshirts, t-shirts,
hats, mugs, mousepads and more! And the best part is that 10% of the
profits will go to a charity! I love that we are helping worthy organizations."
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Our coaches are certainly committed, talented, and making things happen!
It is my honor to be part of this community that is making such a difference
in the lives and relationships of others.
Have a win you would like to share? Any graduates from your RCI coaching
"find the love of their life and the life that they love?"
Please pass it on and we'll celebrate it!
Relationship Coaching Technology:
HOW SINGLES CAN CREATE COMMUNITY
By David Steele
The most common lament I hear from today's singles is their difficulty
meeting potential partners. This problem did not occur in past generations
when we lived and worked in a community of family, friends, neighbors,
and co-workers, all of who would typically help introduce singles to
each other. Without this support system, today's singles increasingly
rely upon dating services and personal ads to solve the problem of meeting
potential partners, and then wonder why they have so little in common
with the people they meet through these services.
Want to find your life partner? Expand your meaningful relationships!
If you are becoming frustrated in finding potential partners, remember
that relationships are about connection, and start by asking yourself
how you can improve the quality and quantity of ALL your relationships.
Isolated singles often find each other and become isolated couples.
When they have children, they become isolated families. Whether the family
remains intact or not, the legacy of isolation continues. If relationships
survive and thrive in community, they tend to shrivel and die in isolation.
Could this contribute to the high failure rate of relationships today?
Without a built-in community, today's singles must intentionally create
their own support system. While most singles have friends and family,
this is not a large enough support community. Building a network of close,
mutually beneficial relationships requires time, effort, and intention.
In today's society, the closest example of this kind of support system
is the community that exists in most church or temple environments. Characteristics
include:
Geographical proximity
Shared values, beliefs, and goals
Inter-generational
On-going shared activities
All members contribute time and resources
Mobilization in times of crisis and need
Supportive of all members' needs and accomplishments
A community with the above characteristics can be found or created outside
of religious institutions. It can be as close as on your block or in
your neighborhood.
The members of a community contribute what they can and receive the
support they need. A single male member of the community might volunteer
to fix the plumbing of an elderly female member, who happens to think
of a friend of her granddaughter that might be good for him to meet.
Only in a community does this kind of spontaneous, mutually supportive
relationship develop. A typical, isolated single male wouldn't have much
reason to interact with a typical, isolated elderly female, and when
she calls a plumber to fix her problem, he misses the opportunity to
meet her granddaughter's friend, and they both miss the opportunity to
be in a mutually beneficial relationship that enriches each other's lives.
So, where can singles meet potential partners? In my experience the
singles asking this question are too isolated in their everyday life,
and need to first focus on building their community before finding a
partner.
How can singles build a community for themselves? Here are some suggestions:
Research existing communities aligned with your values and interests-
charitable, service, recreational, etc
Explore personal growth and spiritual organizations
Check out men's or women's organizations
Deepen your connection with your existing friends, co-workers, family,
and neighbors by getting together more often
Start "People Collecting;" gathering cool people into
your life of a variety of ages, genders, etc, that you want to spend
time with.
A great relationship is brought together by, and thrives in community.
By deepening your connection with others and expanding the circle of
people you connect with, you improve the quality of your life and relationships.
You can then allow your community to support you in finding and having
a successful life partnership.
Practice Tips:
5 STEPS TO LAUNCHING A NEW COACHING PRACTICE
Like many coaches, I discovered coaching after many years in private
practice as a helping professional, so I did not start from scratch.
For new coaches transitioning from one form of practice to another, or
adding coaching to their existing practice, I offer the following 5 steps
to leveraging past and current contacts to launch a new coaching practice:
STEP 1: COMPILE CONTACT INFORMATION OF EVERYONE YOU KNOW:
Friends
Family
Neighbors
Church acquaintances
Former colleagues
Former co-workers
College friends
Current clients
Former clients
Former prospective clients
Friends of friends
Friends of friends of friends of friends
Gather names, telephone numbers, e-mail addresses from every source
you have. Look through old files, collections of business cards, and
address books.
While you are at it, resolve to get the contact info of EVERY person
you talk to about your business in the future and add them to this list.
Your goal is to build your contact list to a magical critical mass (somewhere
between 2000 and 5000) that will result in a full practice with little
effort on your part.
STEP 2: INPUT DATA FROM STEP 1 INTO DATABASE
Preferably a contact management system such as ACT! 2000 (learn how to
use it!)
STEP 3: PLAN AN INTRODUCTORY EVENT TO ROLL OUT YOUR NEW PRACTICE:
Teleclass
Open house
Seminar/presentation
Premiums (book, tape, free service, assessment, etc)
STEP 4: SEND ANNOUNCEMENT:
-Send out press releases to the media (yes, this is news!)
-Send a professional looking invitation and brochure (w/your picture)
to your database in Step 2, and ask them to "PLEASE SHARE WITH SOMEONE
YOU CARE ABOUT"
STEP 5: FOLLOW UP:
Build your relationship with your database via e-mail newsletter or regular
announcements, as well as telephone calls with folks that respond to
your mailings. Remember that 80% of sales are made with 5 or more contacts,
so plan how to keep your name in front of your prospects often enough
for them to get around to hiring you.
I hope this helps!
Invitations:
I invite you to share your announcements, wins, coaching or practice
tips with the rest of us. Be visible! Let's connect! Send them to me
at
I invite you to share this newsletter with a colleague. There is
a tremendous need for our services, and we need to work together. Relationship
Coaching is in its infancy, and we must collaborate to build our market
niche and position as a resource of wide appeal for anyone who wants
a successful relationship.
I invite you to listen to the following introductory recordings FREE
(except for long distance charges) 24 hours a day at your convenience
online,
or by calling 918-222-7201 and entering the extension #:
#347: Introduction to Relationship Coaching for Singles
#346: Finding The Love Of Your Life AND The Life That You Love
#345: Conscious Dating For Relationship Success
I invite you to get the support you need to be successful in your
practice. We are available for information, training, ideas, mentor
coaching, etc.
If you are a coach or therapist who received this from a colleague,
I invite you to visit our web site and contact
us for information on joining us and becoming a RelationshipCoachingInstitute
Relationship Coach. Ask about getting a free copy of our introductory
audiotape, and about our free teleclasses.
To subscribe to this newsletter, our newsletter for SINGLES, or our
newsletter for COUPLES, see this page.
For a description of RCI relationship coaching trainings, schedule,
and enrollment info, visit http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com
How do you like our newsletter?
Your feedback is welcome! Until next time....
Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of RelationshipCoachingInstitute/Relationship Coaching Institute
The purpose of this newsletter is to connect, support each other, inform,
and build a strong community of coaches dedicated to helping people find
fulfillment in their lives and relationships.
This monthly newsletter is written for the benefit of RCI Relationship
Coaches, and is available to interested others. Feel free to share this
with a colleague. Your submissions and feedback are welcome!
Our Mission: To provide the tools, information and support to help singles
find the love of their life and the life that they love, and to help
couples co-create fulfilling and lasting Life Partnerships.
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